This past Friday evening my friend and I walked through the front door at 3 Fires Lounge in Midtown Sacramento. We were there hanging out with 20+ guys from our local gay men's social group. As we entered the lounge, a drunken shaved-head guy walked toward us. We wouldn't have noticed him but that he feigned a cough while uttering "homos" as he passed.
We both heard what he said but kept walking, completely disregarding the fool.
Two seconds later, as I processed his homo-cough, Ben, the bartender, asked what the guy said. As soon as I said "homo" Ben made his way to their table and invited the homo-cougher's party to leave.
I was impressed with Ben's decisive and assertive action, but much less impressed with my lack thereof.
What should I have done? What would you have done?